Sah D’Simone is a spiritual guide, meditation teacher, international transformational speaker, best-selling author, and creator of The Sah Method. Catch him on Wanderlust TV, presenting a series of classes based on the principles in his book, Spiritually Sassy.
If ever there was a moment in our generation’s history that defines uncertainty, it’s now.
The pandemic, the civil rights movement, the economy, and unemployment rate, the future… it’s all so unknown. (But honey, the future is ALWAYS unknown.)
Our habitual craving for control is off the charts right now. The result of that mindset can be a feeling of helplessness and impotency that can feel crippling if you let it simmer too long.
The truth is, my love, control is only an illusion. Control is a construct we invent to comfort ourselves in the face of uncertainty. It’s nothing more than a distraction.
However, and here’s the good news: there is something we can do to help ourselves in moments of uncertainty, when we desperately need something to turn to for hope. It’s discipline, honey! Discipline offers us true liberation because it focuses our energy where it can make the most difference: within.
One of the best ways to practice discipline is through meditation. Here, we can train the mind—undoing the habituated tendencies that do not serve us, and putting in their place wholesome, healthy habits that will take us further in our journey.
Cultivate Patience Through Meditation
Habits like patience. The patience to live in this moment, with all its unknowns and uncertainty. The patience to trust in the now, rather than guessing at the future. The patience to trust in the process, rather than straining towards the outcome. It’s the difference between presence and absence.
Living for the future, overly focused on wanting answers to questions that will come in due time… that’s life in absentia. Then, we’re just going through the motions of life, without paying attention, or worse, acting the part of a puppeteer, trying to manipulate people and experiences to force an outcome we desire. No bueno, honey!
In order to make peace with the “not knowing” we must train our attention of the mind on the intention of the heart, and cultivate patience like precious blooms in a garden. We must open ourselves up to unconditional trust through meditation.
Meditation for Uncertainty
Here’s a practice adapted from my course, 21 Mantras and Meditations to Regain Trust in Times of Uncertainty.
Get comfy. Take a few deep, centering breaths, and turn your attention inward. Bring your mindfulness about the external world into your internal landscape.
Bring loving awareness inside and notice what you experience as you contemplate, “what does patience look and feel like?” Allow yourself to work on that question. Direct the energy of your mind there. Examine patience for the answer.
Whisper to yourself: “I am curious about the unfinished business and unanswered questions in my life, but I do not demand answers.” Let this statement anchor you and sit with it.
Making the choice to trust liberates you. You can live in the trust that everything is happening as it should, and what is coming will unfold in due time. Your curiosity motivates you to move forward in a proactive way, but allows you the freedom to live in the present, having faith that the best-case scenario is on its way, rather than focusing on the future.
What is it like to not demand answers? How does it feel to be ok with what you know right now?
Think about the things in your life are you currently demanding answers for. What things are you impatiently waiting to know the outcome of? What things are you wanting to force?
Make a conscious choice to remain curious but open, with unwavering patience and an open heart. Bring that patience to your current scenario.
Whisper to yourself: “I trust that the answers will be provided to me when I am ready to receive them and live accordingly.” Really gather the attention of your mind with the intention of your heart to awaken that unconditional trust and hold it steady.
Say, “I am at peace with where I am in my journey. I trust that all I need to know, at this moment, I know.”
Take a deep breath. How do you feel?
Celebrate the wisdom you’ve uncovered today, my darling! Send love to yourself and to everyone else. May all beings be happy and free, and may we all be happy and free.
Next time you feel yourself getting crunchy around your impatience and desire for control, revisit this practice and tap back into that patience that sits at the base of your being.
And if you want to further explore regaining trust in other parts of yourself and turn your control delusion into freedom thru discipline, check out the full course. It’s utterly transformative, honey!
Here’s to the not-knowing! May you be at peace in your patience.
Sah D’Simone is a spiritual guide, meditation teacher, international transformational speaker, best-selling author, and creator of The Sah Method, who has dedicated his life to helping others to live in alignment and achieve their highest potential. He is pioneering a Spiritually Sassy, heart-based healing movement rooted in science-backed, tried-and-true techniques, in which joy and authenticity illuminate the path to enlightenment.
His infectious enthusiasm for healing is grounded in a masterful and revolutionary synthesis of ancient Tantric Buddhism, modern contemplative psychotherapy, meditation, breathwork, and integrative nutrition… all delivered in his own radiant, approachable, and playful style.