4 Skills to Cultivate Bodily Love


Many of you may struggle with negative body image and self-esteem at times throughout your lives. Often due to cultural pressures to maintain an unrealistic ideal of beauty, women are particularly prone to negative self-thoughts about their appearance. Negative body image can contribute to anxiety and depression, and may keep you from participating fully in meaningful relationships. Whether low self-esteem has greatly impacted your life, or body image is something you struggle with occasionally, there are strategies you can use for change. These four tips for improving body image will help you shift your negative thoughts patterns and begin the body-positive healing process.

1. Witness Your Thoughts

Sit and think about the last negative thought you had about your appearance. Whoa, that was mean! Pay attention to what your thoughts are saying. You would never say that to a friend, so why should you have to take it? The first step to freeing yourself from negative body image is to take a moment to talk back to that mean voice in your head that tells you you’re not beautiful. Tell the thought, with love, “Don’t speak to me like that.” Talking to yourself in this way doesn’t make you crazy, but it does help you stand up for yourself. Refusing to hear the negative thoughts about your body is the first step in freeing yourself from those limiting beliefs.

2. Shift your Perceptions About Food

Body image issues often come hand in hand with disordered or unhealthy eating habits. Food is not the enemy you often make it out to be when feeling body-negative. Consider thinking about food as fuel, first and foremost. Rather than calorie counting and shaming, consider how the protein and veggies in that omelet will fuel your morning workout. Taking a moment to pause before each meal to be mindful of the ways in which each ingredient on your plate will nourish you is a great practice for developing a healthy relationship to food. If you’re looking for a way to make positive changes to your diet, check out the healthy and innovative ideas in the “nourish” section of Your Zen Life! If you’re eating habits have become dangerous to your health or are impacting your relationships or day-to-day functioning, you may consider seeking professional support.

3. Practice Self Love

What do you love about your body? Make a list of both physical and functional attributes. “I love my blue eyes,” is just as important as “I love how strong I’m becoming in Yoga class.” When your thoughts about your body become negative, quickly recognize that and begin to replace them with body-positive thinking. Repeat the things you love about your body daily. Use these statements as affirmations to battle the negative thoughts. Let’s put those nagging suckers back in their place!

4. Stop Talking Trash

Are you in the habit of trash talking your appearance out loud? Are your friends putting down their appearances? Surrounding yourself with pals who talk negatively about themselves can hinder your positive thinking efforts! Let your friends know about the changes you’re making. Send them this article and take a vow together to stop trash talking your bodies! If you have a friend who continues the negative talk, let them know you think they’re beautiful the way they are. Supporting others who struggle with similar issues can further help you on your journey to a happy self-image.

Use these steps every day to improve your body image and overall happiness. Remember, making one small change in your thinking can ignite a positive ripple effect!

wanderlust-headshot-2Haley Neidich is a licensed psychotherapist, blogger and mindfulness coach helping to spread light and love. Haley has her Masters of Science in Social Work from Columbia University and served on the faculty of the Yale School of Medicine’s Child Study Center. Haley works primarily with young adult women, helping her clients heal with the use of Mindfulness, Meditation, Group Therapy and CBT. She works out of a beautiful, sunny office in downtown New Haven, CT. Follow her affirmations and mindfulness tips on Twitter @HaleyNeidich or visit her website at www.haleyneidich.com.