The One Sneaky Thing That Can Drain Your Happiness — And How You Can Fix It

You have the keys to your own happiness

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Every so often I catch something especially sneaky making its way into my conversations, my thoughts and my interactions: judgment. It comes off as innocent at first, but I always wind up feeling sad and disconnected. That’s because judgment quietly but swiftly drains your happiness and blocks you from inner peace.

Judgment weakens your power and literally saps your strength. I recently felt this firsthand when I noticed myself casually trash-talking. I wasn’t necessarily saying anything really mean or untrue, but it was trash-talking nonetheless. Afterwards I felt awful. My energy was low and I was weak. After witnessing how my words had weakened my power, I decided to change my ways. That moment I started counting how many days I could refrain from judgement. It’s been seven days now and I feel more energized, more connected to others and more powerful! In the past seven days I’ve had judgmental thoughts but I haven’t pursued them. When I notice judgement arise, I forgive the thought and choose again. This commitment to release judgement is setting me free.

Judgment keeps you from pace. The reason is simple: Judgment creates separation. A Course in Miracles says, “The ego cannot survive without judgment. The ego seeks to divide and separate. Spirit seeks to unify and heal.” Though judgment may be our default, unity is our truth. The moment we release judgment, unity is restored. Each shift from judgment to unity is a miracle. Join me in counting days of judgment and raising our high vibes!

Watch this video for my guidance and let’s start our judgment cleanse today! Who’s in? Post your declaration in the comments below and share this blog with your friends…

If you’re inspired to dive deeper into this topic, join me on June 24th for my Miracles Now workshop and fundraiser. Throughout this workshop I will offer practical guidance on how to create more flow, synchronicity and fun in your life. Additionally, I will teach you the tools you need to take your happiness into your own hands. The proceeds from this event go toward funding my Miracle School in Ghana. Attend live in NYC or get the video replay. Details here.

gabby-bernstein-headshotFeatured on Oprah’s Super Soul Sunday as one of the next generation thought leaders, Gabrielle Bernstein is making her mark. She is the New York Times Bestselling author of the books Miracles Now and May Cause Miracles. Her earlier titles include Add More~ing to Your Life: A Hip Guide to Happiness and Spirit Junkie: A Radical Road to Self-Love and Miracles(published by Random House.) Gabrielle is also the founder of the social networking site for women to inspire, empower and connect. Learn more at